This is a very sad story!!
I normally like to keep my post upbeat and positive. If I am going to write honestly than I need to tell you the truth about the last time I cried. I really don’t cry very often, sometimes I wonder if my crier is broken. There are definite situations I have encountered that I should be crying about but I can’t. This one for obvious reasons did get me going several different times; I did manage to keep it together most of the time by looking at the big picture and not the here and now.
In early December I received a call from my Mother In-law asking if Eric was home from work yet, he wasn’t. She completely lost it and informed me that my 31 year old brother in law Andy was dead. We are all from Michigan but a few years ago Andy moved to West Virginia for work. He was single and lived in an apartment down there by himself. He did come up to hang out and visit us in Michigan one to two weekends a month though.
I will give you a little history, a month and a half before his death he wasn’t feeling well so he went to the doctors to find out what was wrong with him. He found out he had a Liver Disease. After a week in the hospital and Outpatient Treatment he was expected to get better and recover from this. He came home to Michigan for Thanksgiving and his skin and eyes were greenish yellow, he looked awful. He had scheduled an appointment with a bigger Liver Clinic (in Pennsylvania) for the following Monday since the rinky dink Doctor’s Office he was currently going to wasn’t helping him. He went to his first appointment on that Monday; they ordered Blood Work and scheduled him a follow up appointment. He died less than a week later on Sunday, he was found on Monday by the police.
His work was worried about him because they couldn’t get a hold of him so they sent the Police to his apartment to check on him. The Police found him dead in his bed. As of February 15, 2015 we are still waiting for the Autopsy results for the cause of death. The stupid thing is you could look at him and tell he was definitely sick, what is the hold up here. Without the completed Autopsy there is no Death Certificate, with no Death Certificate I am having a hard time taking care of his financial matters (I am in charge of his Estate).
Like I have said numerous times in other Post;
I try to look at the positive in every situation and make the best of everything life throws my way. I have cried several times about Andy being gone but each time I am able to pull myself together by remembering that not only does “Everything Happen for a Reason” , he is in Heaven in a better more peaceful place.
One of the biggest positive things that have happened directly related to Andy’s death is how close we have become with Eric’s parents. I am sitting here writing this on the couch of their cabin up north, we all came up here as a family for the second time in the last two months. In the last 8 years we have never been on a family vacation with them. We also talk to them almost every day and see them about 1 time a week. I love hanging out with them and can’t believe it took 8 years and Andy’s death to bring us together. But I am glad it did.
My mother in law Val and I have a lot more in common that we ever knew.
She is an avid sewer and ‘crafter’ like me. We both love going to Auctions (we went twice this weekend) and had a blast. They enjoy my kids and my kids love hanging out with them. All in all, it is a blessing in disguise. I am just sorry it had to all start because of the death of someone as great as Andy. He is missed greatly.
When was the last time you cried? Was it over something silly or serious? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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